This year in general, but this month specifically, I have made it a point to be more intentional about the people I choose to have around me. I am in a place in life right now where mentally I am in growth mode. I want to grow my finances, my sphere of influence, my capacity for more, and my skills and abilities. I’ve come to learn, that our growth is directly correlated to the people we are connected with.
As it relates to me, I do an amazing job at isolating myself, identifying problem people/situations and creating space between myself and those things that may inhibit my growth. What I lack in is inviting people into my space and sharing the intricacies of my life with others. In today’s social media age, real human connection is an outdated commodity.
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People rather remain in their silos as opposed to allow themselves to be exposed to new opportunities. I must admit that I have fallen into this trap as well. I’ve always been forward thinking and open to new experiences, but as I’ve been getting older, what was once a natural inclination has now become something that requires a conscious effort.
It is imperative that we are intentional about the company we keep. As we become more isolated, we become less effective. I wrote a piece entitled Why are Millennials so Lonely?, and it highlighted several issues that us young adults may be facing. I would like to submit that another contributing factor to our loneliness is our unwillingness to be open.
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One would think that in the year 2020 vulnerability would be commonplace with all the messaging around us that encourages us to be our best selves, and to lean into that which makes us unique. However, I would argue that today’s society has subverted the idea of what being our best selves really means. I once read somewhere that we are strong in our weakness. Why would someone write that? I would like to think the author knew that the best way for us to be our best and strongest selves is by leaning on others to help overcome our short comings. We cannot fix what we won’t allow to be broken.
Vulnerability is an essential part of the human existence. Find people who will accept and appreciate the real you, not the you, you think people think you are. The company we keep is Crucial to our growth and development, and a preference for social media focused and echo chambered life is not a sufficient substitute for real authentic human connection.
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